"I could not control the nerve running along the right side of my forehead from expanding; my right hand's fist from turning into a boxing stud and my some less than thirty-two teeth from hitting each other in disgust", said a twenty year old guy. He was talking about the unpleasant incident when he hit his ex-best friend over a trifle matter.
As I talked to him, I was perturbed by the calm composition of his posture and demeanor. Was this the same person who had held his friend by the collar and done an act that left the collar fully stained in blood? Which is the Real one, the real emotion - the Real person?
He answered the question very wisely indeed-
He says, "When you are angry, the Adrenaline flows so fiercely that you lose your sense of wisdom. You are unaware of the expressions that overshadow your face; the movements which your hands make. Your temperament rises to a superficial level. You want to hear harsh sounds, that too made by your hand! You want to see defeat written all over the 'enemy's' face."
Woh! I really liked what he told me. And again I wanted to work out the reason behind this uproar of emotions.
I guess it's the old Big Ego coming into the picture again. How dare he say that to me? How could he do that to me? I am so important, I am so damn better than the others.
Isn't that true? Yes our EGO steps in every time. Beware of this EGO
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6 comments:
Very well narrated. I could not agree more with your assessment of Ego.
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Ramesh
Just 15 minutes ago, I discovered a part of the real me that I didn't like very much. I am training my dogs (7 months old) to be obedient. The first lesson is "heel" (making the dog walk next to you - not faster than the master and not slower than the master). This was their 6th lesson, and they are doing well, learning slowly but regularly. But today, my large puppy dog, Barack, wanted his own way, so I pulled the leash too hard out of frustration several times to make him heel, and I suddenly realized that I was expecting too much, confusing his failure with my own failure, and my lack of patience. I made the realization when he broke the steel choker collar around his neck, as he bolted towards another dog, and they both ran far away. I was almost in tears when I realized my mistake.
Michael, my sympathy is with you. But, a great observation and a highly apt case. These small incidents make us conscious of our behaviour.
Thanks for sharing your experience here.
lol.. I was angry just a moment ago!! Thank God .. the guy on the other side had to bear the brunt over the phone.. I would have gone farther than ripping off the collar!!
Strider it would be great if you share the emotionally charged incident.
I have learnt that when I am upset about something , I will not react immediately, the moment has to pass, and once it has passed, I no longer feel so upset.
It takes a lot effort to come to this stage, but once you are there you are happy with the change within you.
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