Emotions Felt and Emotions Displayed

I remember these terms from a book on "Organization Behavior", I read two years ago. Yet, the implications and significance of the difference between these two emotions, has become evident lately.

There are times I find myself smiling; my friends call it the "artificial smile". I call it "the displayed emotion". The real emotion goes hidden! Fishy as it sounds, the gap often unnerves me. So, when I want to shout or scold the person who's bothering me, I end up flashing a big smile.

Again I ask myself, "why do I do that?" and I put this question to others too.

Why are we afraid of displaying our real emotions? Why do we limit ourselves to boundaries of social etiquette? Why are certain emotions considered unfit to be displayed?

Putting the Blame on others

Our inability to accept reality, our insecurity to trust others and our overconcern to maintain a good image; all result in incidents we would never come forward to take credit for.
We make a mistake, we realize the blunder made and then, we rush to cover that up.

Why? How?

Why, we are yet to find out but how...
Put the blame on the other party or even a third party.

He said, "..."
It happened...

How justified is it?

Identify the BIG EGO

It is very important to Identify the BIG EGO and control it. This would automatically lower down the stress levels and conflicts.

Ego leads to Stress and Conflicts

Ego: Stress and Conflicts

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A Child's Play

Games have always inspired children who remain glued to the Video set, player or Mobile just to improve their scores and gain those extra points.

I recently observed a youngster holding a PSP in his hands with full concentration on the screen, efficiently managing the press buttons with his fragile fingers and eyes gazing on the tank that raced across a steep ascent in the game.

The child taught me how to use the keys, what to press to shoot a bullet or fire a shot at the policeman. The speed and dexterity with which he manoeuvred the device, simply amazed me.
Then, I observed his game closely. Any person on foot, car, bike or any vehicle is our young player's enemy; no matter if he shoots back or lends a helping hand.

I assume the child doesn't distinguish between the two.

But, then I wonder is this child ever going to realize the importance of Team work, Synergy or Collaboration...

and it's not too early to expect that

From the very beginning this kid learns to have his way out even if that amounts to destroying an impediment or even a non-moving object on the road. Is he learning not to share his things with others or to be the only one in power? What about his ego? Is it getting inflated beyond control?

Ego: Stress and Conflicts

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Frustation over small things

Getting Frustrated over Small/Petty things

Frustation over small things is very common.

There are instances or actions of others that tend to frustrate you more than a major failure or cancellation of a deal. You are irritable throughout the day. One irritant stimulates another and you lose your temper at the drop of a hat. You shout, stare, howl, slam the door or even throw things...

Is it ego? Do we want everything to happen and move the way we like it to be?

Why?

What if we identify the stimulants and control our reactions and feelings?